The peace for which you have to wait is the peace that is bound in time. It is mortal.
Peace that arises from causes will live and die by those causes. It is not ever-present and what is not ever-present is not real on the level of the Absolute.
Uncaused peace, which is no different than Being, is available at any moment. It is the recognition of the Self by the Self within the Self. It is you and always you.
When you fixate on the not-you, which means to say the body, mind, and ego, then you forget yourself and fall prey to the suffering that arises from confusion.
Often we are left with the mistaken belief that we need to get X and Y done before we can allow ourselves to feel okay. Or we have to prove ourselves in this or that way before we can consider ourselves a whole Being.
By all means, aim to achieve whatever inspires you. But don’t hinge your sense of Self on such transient things. Otherwise you will be a constant victim of your own imaginations.
Re-discover yourself without the context of a mind and body, as a timeless and endless expanse of contentment. Then be in touch with that Self even as you go about playing the part of a human in this world.
zengriff asked: I want to thank you so much for making this blog and sharing your wisdom, you've helped me so much. You've taught me how we are pure consciousness and not our bodies nor our minds, after understanding this and applying it to my life it's truly fulfilling and making my life more joyful, but I feel that I need to be more compassionate, I know in my heart that that's the way to go, but when I am social, I feel more self centered than anything. How do you go about putting others before yourself?
Suppose you’re an adult with a few children at an amusement park. They’re all so excited to go on the rides and have fun. So you take them around and go with them. Are you going to try to cut them in line and think of yourself first? Or are you going to let the kids go first and will you take amusement in how much they enjoy themselves?
Compassion is like that but without the adult/child condescending perspective.
We are self-centered when we expect our body-mind to give us lasting happiness. As you loosen up your fixation and identification with the body-mind, you discover yourself as that radiant joy of simply existing. Stay in touch with that, keep some attention within you even as you are out and about socializing.
Others are very dependent on experiences in order to be happy. You are growing to be independent of transitory experiences. Thus you will be happy to allow others to enjoy themselves before you, since you don’t really care. Not only that, but you will enjoy seeing others enjoy themselves with you.
On a practical level, I suggest practicing tonglen. I have never considered myself an especially compassionate person but after reading The Places That Scare You by Pema Chodron and practicing tonglen, I’ve come to really value the quality of compassion in daily life.
Compassion isn’t always about putting others before yourself, or lowering yourself and elevating others, but rather it’s a way of relating directly with all living beings.
homeisastepaway asked: If our true nature is supreme awareness, why do we experience this human life which is extremely limited in time and space?
It is only our confusion that causes us to mistake this current human experience to be a phenomenon limited in time and space. When you discover the truth that you are timeless and spaceless in this very moment, as this moment, then you will realize you were never really limited.
The often quoted metaphor is that of a rope being mistaken as a snake. In the dead of night, someone sees a rope on the floor and thinks it’s a snake. He reacts with fright to the appearance of the snake but when he lights a candle, he sees the snake is really a rope. Then his fear vanishes.
The snake never came nor went, it was only the man’s confusion which changed. The snake never was.
Similarly, we were never this limited human experience that you take yourself to be. We are eternal, vast, and blissful existence. Why did this confusion arise in the first place? I do not know. My focus is on coming to know and abide as that truth.
seekingserenityy asked: Hi. My close relationships tend to bring out the worst in me. I get easily annoyed, angry, ignorant, selfish, almost even mean. These emotions come with such strength, it seems impossible to just observe them. I get caught up in them. Even when I try to let them go, they still effect my mood and the way I act, speak, think, feel. When this happens, I often feel ashamed and pull back. I would appreciate some advice on how to just.. be. How to not get caught up. Namaste
When you realize and accept that relationships cannot give or take anything, your ego has a lot less to kick up a fuss about.
Relationships are for relating with and enjoying one another.
It may seem impossible to remain the witness of your emotions but it is not. You are already the witness to your reactions, only you are so fixated on the reactions that you forget yourself as the witness. To remain as the witness means to remember yourself as not being your body and its emotive reactions.
Come back to yourself. This is not a single action but a continual effort to return to yourself every time you meet the challenge of reactivity. Each and every time you come back to witness these emotions, you diminish their control over you. Over time it will become easier.
Ask yourself why you feel so conflicted with your relationships. They are meant to be expressions of life enjoying itself; when they become sources of pain it is time to re-evaluate your reasons and approach.
You are whole. No relationship can add to your wholeness or subtract from it. Therefore there is no reason to cling to a relationship out of selfishness nor put up a wall of anger out of fear that the relationship can somehow diminish your Being.
Daily meditation reminds you and keeps you in touch with Being so that when you find yourself in the world among these turbid emotions, you can recognize them as a kind of transient intoxication and stand aloof as the witness.
The act of witnessing itself takes the wind out of the sails of the ego, it removes energy from reactivity and allows the emotions to burn themselves out.
Often our thoughts tune to the frequency of our emotions so that when we feel an emotion, our thoughts tend to reflect that perspective. When we are happy, we see the world as a beautiful place. When we are depressed, it looks like hell. And when we are annoyed, the world seems worthy of burning.
The reason why you have trouble letting go is because your thoughts tend to rekindle the emotions. When you think in tune with the frequency of your emotions, it’s like adding fuel to the fire. Instead, shift your attention away from thought into direct feeling/witnessing/perception of those emotions.
Patience is peace. Watch, watch, watch. Realize you are always the watcher and sit back as that witness. It is certainly not easy at first but effort is needed to break the inertia of your ignorance.
Take heart and keep at it.
Namaste :) Much love sis
Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj
Peace is not an experience. It is a lack of confusion regarding what you are experiencing. In that clarity, there is contentment and the joy of liberation from the suffering of confusion.
The human experience is filled with moments of positivity and beauty interchanging with moments of negativity and pain. This human experience is characterized by the body, its associated physical senses and sensations, along with the mind’s thoughts and moods.
When some embark on the journey to discover peace, they search for it in the world of human experience. The hope is that the experience of this body can be made permanently happy and positive, forever forsaking the negative.
Such a perspective is dependent upon your experience being a certain way; and since experiences themselves are transient, so is the happiness and pleasure they bring.
You are not your experiences and the conviction of this truth born of direct perception will take the pressure off avoiding negative experiences and clinging to positive ones. You become less fixated on your experiences, enjoying what comes and no longer lamenting letting go of what goes.
But where does peace fit in? Peace is not an experience but the way you regard experiences. It is not a thought or a mindset but rather the place of eternal awareness from which you live.
By the place, I mean your Self. When you no longer mistake yourself to be your body or mind, where does that leave you? It is the opportunity to become aware of your own existence without the context of human form.
In that clear awareness, you are at ease and at peace. Or rather, you recognize yourself as ease and peace itself. There are endless ways to release our confusion in order to re-discover clarity, and I like to recommend meditation and self-enquiry.
We are a lot less like individual beings and more like a spaceless and timeless dimension that is endlessly conscious of itself.
Trippy but true. :P
Yogis of Tibet
A rare and stunning documentary about Tibet, Buddhism, and Modernity. It really is informative and moving. I highly recommend watching it.
It saddens me that our country manages to get into wars all over but has yet to find a way for this tiny and compassionate nation to return to its homeland.
Thanks to resonantfrequencies for sharing it with me!
a-polo-nia asked: Hello LazyYogi! I just a simple question about your personal interests: I was wondering if you could give us a quick short list of your favorite books of all time and maybe a little bit about why you like them? Namaste!
Awesome, I’d be happy to! I’m sure I’ll forget some good ones, though, but here goes nothing:
The Invisibles by Grant Morrison — This is one of my favorite graphic novel series of all time. It challenges our notions of reality/society while at the same time painting a beautiful possible future for us all to grow.
Promethea by Alan Moore — Another fantastic graphic novel series. This mythic story celebrates the figure of the heroine and the true power of imagination. It takes place in a future human society and also heralds the coming of a new time in history. Simply amazing and awesome.
Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas by Hunter S. Thompson — I just love the way Hunter thoroughly rejects conventional reality and substitutes his own. I don’t think his insights are by any means final conclusions but they are sharp, humorous, and witty indictments of the western world.
Harry Potter — Enough said.
The Sandman Series by Neil Gaiman — Another graphic novel series that is marvelous. It draws from various mythologies, conspiracy theories, and its own imaginative world to create enthralling stories both dark and moving.
Tales of Horror and the Macabre by HP Lovecraft — A gifted author who had eyes and thoughts completely out of place for his time period. He would have been an amazingly successful writer and film director in the current industry. His stories are both disturbing and vividly hypnotic. I recommend The Call of Cthulhu.
I’m sure I’m missing some, but those are a few to start you off :)
theworldismyplayground0 asked: hi lazy, what book got you in to spiritualism? a book that change your view on life, that shifted you from a sleeping person. ty for the time Rigo
Oddly enough, despite the fact that I’m always recommending books, I did not get into spirituality due to a book. For me, it was a natural evolution that arose from the invariable questions life posed.
The first spiritual book I read was Autobiography of a Yogi by Yogananda. It came highly recommended and was interesting but didn’t teach much in the way of spiritual living, especially for a westerner.
In college, I read the first scripture that really moved me. It was The Avadhuta Gita as translated by Sri Purohit Swami. That text made a vast impression on me.
After graduating college, the first spiritual book I read was the very same book put in my hands by the parents of my departed close friend: The Power of Now. There’s a story in that, and perhaps I will tell it sometime.
Regardless, it was Eckhart Tolle’s book that really made spirituality come alive for me. It made clear to me how spirituality is meant to be lived, not solely done through action or belief.
th0ughtsfromabalcony asked: Boredom has been the biggest hindrance to my spiritual practice as of late. How do I deal with it?
The need for stimulation is a manifestation of restlessness. Boredom means being discontent with the simplicity of peace. Let your boredom suffocate itself.
When you feel bored, don’t act from a place of boredom. Don’t seek to entertain yourself or distract yourself from the feeling of boredom. Instead, allow it to be there and to intensify. If you practice daily meditation, then this will happen naturally in due course.
I think one reason I felt such rage during my first few months of practicing meditation was a result of resisting boredom. Just sitting can be infuriating at first.
Someone who relies on entertainment to feel at ease will fear and hate boredom. Such a person is continually fixated on “what’s next?”
Peace isn’t next. It is only ever now. It is not entertaining; it is engaging. Be engaged with the simplicity of the here and now, and in that engagement you will find yourself filled. Patience, peace, and contentment will be there.
A great deal of what people say, think, or do is actually motivated by fear, which of course is always linked with having your focus on the future and being out of touch with the Now. As there are no problems in the Now, there is no fear either.
junkonapage asked: Hai there, your blog fills me with inspiration! Thank you. I actually just wonder how and why you became interested in such ventures? And did it come naturally to you or did it take time and effort? I dabble in such ventures myself and you make me curious to hear another perspective :) Namaste and all :)
When I was a kid, I didn’t buy the version of reality pandered by adults, parents, teachers, and peers. This led me to an interest in the supernatural and the occult.
It was fun for many years but as I grew older, life’s hardships made me re-evaluate my perspective. The death of my father the summer before I graduated from high school had a significant impact on me.
What is the use of the supernatural and whatnot if it all ends in death? What is death anyway?
Going into college, these questions equally inspired and confounded me. From there, my involvement in the occult led me to spirituality.
While the direction was a natural progression of existential curiosity, the changes in my understanding and experience of myself took effort at first. It takes effort and sometimes time in order to break the momentum of our ignorance.
However, effort, when put in totally, always leads to effortlessness.
Glad you’ve been digging my blog!
Namaste :) Much love